Sunday, September 2, 2007
Wednesday, August 8, 2007
Chivalry a thing of the past?
In this age happy marriages, and the traditional family almost seems like something of the past but there are some who do not accept this but rather look forward to an oldfashioned and pure marriage.
Do you feel that you were born into the wrong era? Or have you ever wanted to go back in time to when there was chivalry, romance in marriage and integrity? When women were ladies and men were gentlemen. This doesn't have to be just a thing of the past that we read of in history books, it can be our future!
If you have any thoughts on this or would like to discuss things then please feel free to contact me. I would love to hear your thoughts. May God bless you.
The death of feminism and the return of femininity.
The world has enough women who are tough; we need women who are tender. There are enough women who are coarse; we need women who are kind. There are enough women who are rude; we need women who are refined. We have enough women of fame and fortune; we need more women of faith. We have enough greed; we need more goodness. We have enough vanity; we need more virtue. We have enough popularity; we need more purity.
~ Margaret D. Nadauld
The world has enough women who are tough; we need women who are tender. There are enough women who are coarse; we need women who are kind. There are enough women who are rude; we need women who are refined. We have enough women of fame and fortune; we need more women of faith. We have enough greed; we need more goodness. We have enough vanity; we need more virtue. We have enough popularity; we need more purity.
~ Margaret D. Nadauld
'
On The Wings Of A Dove'
Chorus:
On the wings of a snow white dove
He sends his pure sweet love
A sign from above
On the wings of a dove
When trouble surrounds us
When evils come
The body grows weak
The spirit grows numb
When these things beset us
He doesn't forget us
He sends down his love
On the wings of a dove
(Chorus)
On the wings of a snow white dove
He sends his pure sweet love
A sign from above
On the wings of a dove
When Noah had drifted
On the flood many days
He searched for land
In various ways
Troubles he had some
But wasn't forgotten
He sent down his love
On the wings of a dove
(Chorus)
On the wings of a snow white dove
He sends his pure sweet love
A sign from above
On the wings of a dove
On the wings of a snow white dove
He sends his pure sweet love
A sign from above
On the wings of a dove
A sign from above
On the wings of a dove
Words & Music by Bob Ferguson
©1959, 1987 Husky Music/Larrick Music(BMI)
On The Wings Of A Dove'
Chorus:
On the wings of a snow white dove
He sends his pure sweet love
A sign from above
On the wings of a dove
When trouble surrounds us
When evils come
The body grows weak
The spirit grows numb
When these things beset us
He doesn't forget us
He sends down his love
On the wings of a dove
(Chorus)
On the wings of a snow white dove
He sends his pure sweet love
A sign from above
On the wings of a dove
When Noah had drifted
On the flood many days
He searched for land
In various ways
Troubles he had some
But wasn't forgotten
He sent down his love
On the wings of a dove
(Chorus)
On the wings of a snow white dove
He sends his pure sweet love
A sign from above
On the wings of a dove
On the wings of a snow white dove
He sends his pure sweet love
A sign from above
On the wings of a dove
A sign from above
On the wings of a dove
Words & Music by Bob Ferguson
©1959, 1987 Husky Music/Larrick Music(BMI)
Romance and responsabilities (introduction)
This may take a moment or two to read so best make a cup of tea before you sit down to go through it.
But read it to the end for I think you will find it of some encouragement.
DENOMINATION: Non Denominational, Bible based, Conservative Christian
HEIGHT: 188cm (6'2")
WEIGHT: 66kg
DISABILITIES: None
MARITAL STATUS: Single -Never Married
'As for me and my house we will serve the Lord' Joshua 24:15
I am 25 years old and come from a large conservative Christian family. I am dedicated to humbly following God and His ways throughout my life. I seek to be a useful tool for whatever purpose God has in store for me. My goals in life are to live a life pleasing to our Creator, serve my fellow brothers and sisters in the lord and to help others in their search of truth. My life, praise God, is a happy and purposeful one, and I am in search of a gentle-hearted fair-maiden who has a sincere love for God and a dream of being a dedicated mother and happy homemaker to share my happiness with.
I am a very romantic man yet I am also aware that a relationship (marriage) needs to be built on a solid foundation, therefore I am going to give a fairly detailed idea of what I see as important qualities in a potential wife and what I find attractive. I would also like to hear your thoughts from a ladies perspective.I would not really consider marrying a hardened 'career woman' who is puffed up by her many years of study (not saying all study is a waste of time -just when it becomes a pride thing). I seek to meet a humble young lady who is educated (for want of a warmer word) in being a homemaker, wife, mother, loyal companion etc. I would naturally appreciate it if she can cook (or willing to learn) and especially that she knows and has the desire to make a house a home and keep it tidy. I love the feeling of coming in from a hard days work in the fields or wherever to a home that is neat, clean and tidy. I don't mean looking like a hospital though, I mean homely ('homey' for American readers), with pretty curtains and dainty tablecloths etc. The home is a man's refuge from the toil and stresses of work. I know I speak for my self, but I think I speak for many men too. I think a woman feels happy when she can present it like this to her husband too and it also endears her to him :-) It might seem a bit out-of-date but I still think a woman likes flowers given and being treated as a lady. The niceties of marriage and caring for a beloved one should not just be a phase of early marriage, but indeed for life. Love doesn't need to dwindle with age. It can and indeed should grow stronger and richer the more years that are spent together following God's formula for happiness (As my parents have shown by thier example). Long to have a young lady I can love and shower in kindness. Sorry if this is getting a bit too romantic...but remember romance is a wonderful and Godly thing if done in the right manner. Ever read the 'Song of Solomon'? :-)
Faith in God, religion, or beliefs is certainly not a 'hobby' to me. Nor -as some seem to think- is it something one does only once a week. It is the very way of life, as a follower of God. One's purpose for living. Faith in action is true faith. I like to weigh what I do against God's guide-book and asking myself 'what would God expect of His servant'? I know I fall short, but I believe in having the attitude of following God and when one stumbles, get up and keep following...never give in. 'Christianity' is the title I have used but sadly Christianity has been given a bad name by those who [i]profess[/i] to be Christian yet are not. I desire to grow in faith and become a little light to show that God's ways [b]DO[/b] work- if we apply them with the right heart. In regard to belief and what I live by. I try to live by every word that proceeds from the mouth of God. ''Man shall not live by bread alone but by every word...'' it is not right to pick and choose what we want to obey. God knows what is best for mankind and has given us the guidelines to live by... for our own good. Although we all desire to live forever should that be our only motive? Should we not also think of our Creator? He gave us this chance on earth. What thanks does he receive? I want to thank Him for giving us this opportunity and the kindness He has shown. The best way I can see to show our gratitude to Him is to live our lives as He asked His people to. Christ obeyed His Father's laws and instructions with the perfect attitude of heart. He is our example and my desire is to grow to become more Christ like in all aspects of life. Of course all fall short of the glory of God but that doesn't mean we should not even try to do our best. And thankfully we have an advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ, and we rely on His grace and mercy.
With regard to family values I believe each man is the shepherd of his own family. (Yet ideally there should also be shepherds/elders overseeing the whole church that is made up of individual families). As for me, I look forward to being a shepherd of my own family when/if God blesses me with one. If God requires more than this in times to come then I am ready for whatever God asks of me knowing that He will not ask of us more that we are able to do.
I agree with courtship and betrothal, purity till marriage, and that all things be done in the right manner with regard to parental input and approval wherever possible. Now you probably are wanitng me to write bit more about my character: It is a hard question to answer because I am inside looking out, not looking at me from an objective point of view... nevertheless, I will try my best to be impartial: I am a genuine young man who tries to behave in a gentlemanly manner, following the patterns in the Bible best I can. I think deeply about the future, world affairs, trying to help people in this world etc but by nature I am a happy man and a smile is never far from my face :-) I enjoy enjoying life -within the rules. I try to be at all time responsible and yet still have fun along the way. I enjoy the outdoors and hard work does not scare me at all. As you know by now I am very romantic at heart and have an eye for beauty. I find long hair on a lady to be very attractive and a gentle voice will catch my attention very quickly. [img]http://www.homeschoolalumni.org/weblogs/upload/1556557290469ef34e389f3.jpg[/img]
With regard to salvation I believe that we, as gentiles, have been 'saved from automatically being condemned' with the unbelievers through Christ... John 3:18. Now the opportunity of salvation has gone to all nations of the world. I believe there is more to salvation than saying 'I am saved' and going on living however we want. Repentance and obedience are all part of being accpetable to God. John The Baptist said, "Show forth works worthy of repentance" and James states that "Faith without works is dead" So I believe that a follower of God has responsabilities and duty. Salvation is indeed a gift to whom it is given, but I do not believe in the 'easy salvation' that is sold so freely today. There is a broad way and a narrow way. Contrary to today's norm, I respect my father very much and am willing to obey and honour him wherever possible. My family and I are all very close. My oldest two brothers are married and my sister is too. We are very close and the bond between us is strong. I am willing and happy to work as part of a team and to help anyone who is in need. With food, clothing, and shelter I am a contented man. All above this is a blessing from God!
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There is no long-lasting happiness found in pleasing ones self but rather it is found in helping others. This applies for men and women. We cannot deny that women were created by God originally as a helper to their husbands and by following the scriptual pattern this should bring them more happiness than all the wealth in the world. They have equal opportunity to eternal life but they have a totally different role to that of the man. A married woman's role is to be supportive to her husband, a help meet, loving companion, nurturer of the children, dutiful in keeping the house, baking bread, planting flowers around the home,... and being a smiling face to wake up to.. :-) . She is what makes the house a home. This is the technical side of it but in reality I would treat my wife as a most delicate flower and closest friend to my heart and would smother her with love, tender kindness, and warm words that would make her heart leap for joy :-) I have a [b]lot[/b] of love in my heart and seek to find the right young lady to share it with. I greatly respect Godly ladies who are modest and gentle hearted. Those ladies are above rubies. (But I have little time for feministic minded women who act in an arrogant and almost manly manner...augh!). A Godly lady is priceless!!!
[img]http://www.homeschoolalumni.org/weblogs/upload/338591426469ef2e7632c5.jpg[/img]
There is so much joy to be found when a man and women submit in the right order. A wife should respect her husband and submit herself under his authority as a man to Christ. If a man is a Godly man then what is so scary about supporting him as he tries his best to lead his family in the ways of God. I know it must be very hard for Godly wives who want to do what is right but have unbelieving husbands. If a man is not submmiting to Chirst then it would be very hard to understand a wife's part in submission. I say submission...yet really it should be more a simple matter of wanting to please. I enjoy discussion and so-forth. I don't really like contention though, and I think arguments are so destructive to trust and closeness. If possible I hope to avoive them altogether in my marriage (agruments that is not discussions) :-) The idea of a wife going out every week to work seeking a career of her own does not apeal to me nor do I think it is fair to ask this of any woman. Women should not feel they have to perform up to the same standard as a man, it's a cruel expectation placed on women by feminst ideology and peer pressure. I want my wife to experience true womanhood and feel fulfilled as a real lady. This womanly fulfilment has been stolen off the modern 'office slave' woman and many are now realising what they have missed out on..but sadly for many it's too late. :-(
In regard to purity, I think that is important. I for one, do not want to marry a 'second hand woman' (willingly second hand). Todays world says that it doesn't matter if a girl loses her purity before marriage but I think it does matter. ...And if more people said this perhaps girls would be more careful how they behaved (men too). I do not agree with christians divorcing. Divorce really is a plague that [i]is[/i] contagious and has swept across the entire western world leaving behind a trail of destruction. Oh so many cold hearts and broken homes. Marriage IS for life! When a couple marry they must realise this. I believe (in accordance with the Bible) that a man must provide for his wife and family in every way possible. Not only physically but also spiritually. My wife should not expect great wealth or luxuries but she can expect to be protected and provided for very well. There will be no mansion on the hill with crystal chandeliers but there will be a lot of love and romance within the marriage. A stable marriage spiced with a good deal of humour and romance is a special thing indeed (As I have witnessed with my parents marriage of 31 years so far)
A man should be prepared to lay down his life for his family -Christ being the perfect example of selfless love toward the churches (but bear in mind also that a man is of most help to them when he is alive. Protecting his family should also include protecting them from the spiritual dangers and peer pressures that are so prevalent today.
Growing up in a big family I find it very easy to relate to all age groups. I love children and look forward to the day when God blesses me with them/if he does and I pray He does! Children are a blessing from God. Think of the family picnics, the laughter, and happy smiles :-)
I would rather leave it up to God to plan our family. I would count each of them as a blessing. Children can either be a burden or a blessing depending on how they are raised. "Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it".
In this day and age homeschooling is the only safe way. Why raise your children till they are 6 years old or whatever then have them exposed to unruly children and ungodly attitudes and teachings that will undermine all the good things they have been taught. I was homeschooled and want to homeschool my children too.
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As for dress standards, I tend to think ladies should be generally dressed in long dresses or skirts. Clothes that are modest, not revealing (nor should they be too plain and 'official' but rather ladylike and dainty). Neat and petite :-) A lady likes to dress neatly just as much as a man likes to see a lady care about herself enough to dress in a pretty yet modest manner. Not becoming too vain though for all is lost if one become filled with pride and vanity. I know this is easier said than done but if vanity get's too far out of control then it generaly leads to disscontentment.
With regard to TV, movies, literature etc: I think we have to be careful and selective. a lot of what is on the shelves today are the very things that are breaking down our society. I would rather not waste time watching TV. That is apart from in the case of an important world event that required me to view it but that would be extremely rare (I hope) and I would not like to subject my family to it. I think that the television has been responsible for the breakdown of morals in society more than any other single thing on earth. And it has reached almost every country of the world. If it is bad for the children then it is also bad for the adults. We can't kid ourselves (no pun intended). Time with the family is far more important.
I like Christian music especially 'scripture in song', Hymns that show appreciation of God's creation as well as a meriod of other songs including some of the folk songs from old England and Ireland. I do enjoy singing also but not standing up in front a crowd! How wonderful it would be if my future wife would have a love for singing . :-) thinking aloud here, sorry :-)
I am a keen gardener, I enjoy working with animals, and I also enjoy carpentry work and building. My enthusiasm for gardening started at a young age. Here on the farm/community where I live we grow a market garden that not only supplies a lot of our needs but also provides us with enough to sell. I am also a keen fisherman and I enjoy sailing. I like bushwalking, boatbuilding, orchard work, table tennis, discussions around the campfire, carving, picnics, artwork, etc etc. I love life and enjoy doing many many thing :-)
I like the idea of being self-sufficient (relying on God not the 'system') and doing some things the old-fashioned way.
I am living with my family on a 200 acre farms that is situated overlooking the sea and within easy walking distance of the beach.
I'm not one to place huge emphesis on material possessions, rather I believe in 'living and then giving'. In other words, not storing up elaborite personal riches while other people are starving in this world.
I know that I have been quite specific in stating the things I am looking for in a potential wife, but am also realistic that I fall short in many things and I don't expect my wife to be perfect. What matters most is the heart. I look for a girl with a gentle honest heart, who is not pretentious but rather has a genuine desrire to do what is right. Just a happy, mouldable heart is what I hope to find in the lady I fall in love with.
Love covers a multitude of shortcomings. :-)
I have recieved criticism for making a stand on various issues but I am not too concerned by this for it is God who I am trying to please, as I said I just want to be a humble servant of God, a humble leader of my family, a loving husband to my future wife, a dedicated father, and true friend.
I hope God blesses me and my wife with many children. In looking for a wife I also consider if she'll make a good mother for my children, nurture them with gentle dedication. Yet staying ever close to my heart through tight times and easy, thick or thin. Whether the weather be hot, or whether the weather be cold, whatever the weather, we'll weather the weather, whether we are young or old :-). I would like to have a very close and trusting relationship where we can share the intimate thoughts of our hearts. The lady I marry can rest assured she will be loved beyond her wildest dreams and cared for better than most ladies in our time. I will not compromise the order of God but to see her content would bring much joy to my heart. I mumble and bumble along, but beneath it all I'm the kind of man who'll always be true, and never let you down.
I guess I am somewhat old-fashioned and perhaps you may say I was born in the wrong era, but maybe we could learn a lot from the past and apply the virtuous thing in our lives today. What is wrong with chivalry, men who are not ashamed to be men and women who are real ladies??? In society today one can hardly tell the difference between men and women! The beautiful difference has vanished and in it's place has grown the muddy unisex culture and low morals. I have made a stand against aspects of the modern lose society. I have made a stand for following God's ways, for high morals, chivalry, purity, courtship, and indeed all that is upright and acceptable in the sight of God as best I know how. I know I have a long way to go, we all have hope with God's mercy. My goal in life is not great riches or fame, nor do I value success by the number of letters after my name. Finding a wife who shares my passion for following God and who has not been polluted by the surrounding harshness is no easy task. Especially a young lady who is tender-hearted and meek. Yet my standards are based on the bible and I believe that it is worth waiting for the right girl. I feel sure that there is somewhere out there a fine young lady who is also wondering if there are indeed any old-fashioned gentlemen left in the world. Well, God willing, soon we shall meet :-) Hold fast to what you know to be true and I will do the same.
And to anyone else who is also making a stand for righteousness I encourage you to be steadfast in your commitment:
Young ladies while you are in waiting for your future husband to arrive on his white horse, keep yourselves focused on being dutiful daughters, improving your homemaking skills, and remain pure for your future husband.
Young men true, longlasting, happiness doesn't come from trying to please our selves. Be responsible and Godly pillars to uphold the good values in society. Be gentlemen and, regardless of the feministic minded women who will mock you for doing so, be prepared to open doors for ladies and treat them with respect. Let's turn the tide, and show that gentlemen are not extinct from this age.Remember it only takes a minority to make a huge difference in society. So cheer up, for there are others walking the same walk. I hope this is of some encouragement. Feel free to post your comments or write to me directly. I look forward to hearing from you soon.
Email:
oldfashionedgentleman@gmail.com
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Romantic Flowers 1
Romantic Flowers 2
Praise God for His Wonderful Creation!!!
Winter Sunrise
'Misty Dawn'
'As for me and my house we will serve the Lord' Joshua 24:15
But read it to the end for I think you will find it of some encouragement.
DENOMINATION: Non Denominational, Bible based, Conservative Christian
HEIGHT: 188cm (6'2")
WEIGHT: 66kg
DISABILITIES: None
MARITAL STATUS: Single -Never Married
'As for me and my house we will serve the Lord' Joshua 24:15
I am 25 years old and come from a large conservative Christian family. I am dedicated to humbly following God and His ways throughout my life. I seek to be a useful tool for whatever purpose God has in store for me. My goals in life are to live a life pleasing to our Creator, serve my fellow brothers and sisters in the lord and to help others in their search of truth. My life, praise God, is a happy and purposeful one, and I am in search of a gentle-hearted fair-maiden who has a sincere love for God and a dream of being a dedicated mother and happy homemaker to share my happiness with.
I am a very romantic man yet I am also aware that a relationship (marriage) needs to be built on a solid foundation, therefore I am going to give a fairly detailed idea of what I see as important qualities in a potential wife and what I find attractive. I would also like to hear your thoughts from a ladies perspective.I would not really consider marrying a hardened 'career woman' who is puffed up by her many years of study (not saying all study is a waste of time -just when it becomes a pride thing). I seek to meet a humble young lady who is educated (for want of a warmer word) in being a homemaker, wife, mother, loyal companion etc. I would naturally appreciate it if she can cook (or willing to learn) and especially that she knows and has the desire to make a house a home and keep it tidy. I love the feeling of coming in from a hard days work in the fields or wherever to a home that is neat, clean and tidy. I don't mean looking like a hospital though, I mean homely ('homey' for American readers), with pretty curtains and dainty tablecloths etc. The home is a man's refuge from the toil and stresses of work. I know I speak for my self, but I think I speak for many men too. I think a woman feels happy when she can present it like this to her husband too and it also endears her to him :-) It might seem a bit out-of-date but I still think a woman likes flowers given and being treated as a lady. The niceties of marriage and caring for a beloved one should not just be a phase of early marriage, but indeed for life. Love doesn't need to dwindle with age. It can and indeed should grow stronger and richer the more years that are spent together following God's formula for happiness (As my parents have shown by thier example). Long to have a young lady I can love and shower in kindness. Sorry if this is getting a bit too romantic...but remember romance is a wonderful and Godly thing if done in the right manner. Ever read the 'Song of Solomon'? :-)
Faith in God, religion, or beliefs is certainly not a 'hobby' to me. Nor -as some seem to think- is it something one does only once a week. It is the very way of life, as a follower of God. One's purpose for living. Faith in action is true faith. I like to weigh what I do against God's guide-book and asking myself 'what would God expect of His servant'? I know I fall short, but I believe in having the attitude of following God and when one stumbles, get up and keep following...never give in. 'Christianity' is the title I have used but sadly Christianity has been given a bad name by those who [i]profess[/i] to be Christian yet are not. I desire to grow in faith and become a little light to show that God's ways [b]DO[/b] work- if we apply them with the right heart. In regard to belief and what I live by. I try to live by every word that proceeds from the mouth of God. ''Man shall not live by bread alone but by every word...'' it is not right to pick and choose what we want to obey. God knows what is best for mankind and has given us the guidelines to live by... for our own good. Although we all desire to live forever should that be our only motive? Should we not also think of our Creator? He gave us this chance on earth. What thanks does he receive? I want to thank Him for giving us this opportunity and the kindness He has shown. The best way I can see to show our gratitude to Him is to live our lives as He asked His people to. Christ obeyed His Father's laws and instructions with the perfect attitude of heart. He is our example and my desire is to grow to become more Christ like in all aspects of life. Of course all fall short of the glory of God but that doesn't mean we should not even try to do our best. And thankfully we have an advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ, and we rely on His grace and mercy.
With regard to family values I believe each man is the shepherd of his own family. (Yet ideally there should also be shepherds/elders overseeing the whole church that is made up of individual families). As for me, I look forward to being a shepherd of my own family when/if God blesses me with one. If God requires more than this in times to come then I am ready for whatever God asks of me knowing that He will not ask of us more that we are able to do.
I agree with courtship and betrothal, purity till marriage, and that all things be done in the right manner with regard to parental input and approval wherever possible. Now you probably are wanitng me to write bit more about my character: It is a hard question to answer because I am inside looking out, not looking at me from an objective point of view... nevertheless, I will try my best to be impartial: I am a genuine young man who tries to behave in a gentlemanly manner, following the patterns in the Bible best I can. I think deeply about the future, world affairs, trying to help people in this world etc but by nature I am a happy man and a smile is never far from my face :-) I enjoy enjoying life -within the rules. I try to be at all time responsible and yet still have fun along the way. I enjoy the outdoors and hard work does not scare me at all. As you know by now I am very romantic at heart and have an eye for beauty. I find long hair on a lady to be very attractive and a gentle voice will catch my attention very quickly. [img]http://www.homeschoolalumni.org/weblogs/upload/1556557290469ef34e389f3.jpg[/img]
With regard to salvation I believe that we, as gentiles, have been 'saved from automatically being condemned' with the unbelievers through Christ... John 3:18. Now the opportunity of salvation has gone to all nations of the world. I believe there is more to salvation than saying 'I am saved' and going on living however we want. Repentance and obedience are all part of being accpetable to God. John The Baptist said, "Show forth works worthy of repentance" and James states that "Faith without works is dead" So I believe that a follower of God has responsabilities and duty. Salvation is indeed a gift to whom it is given, but I do not believe in the 'easy salvation' that is sold so freely today. There is a broad way and a narrow way. Contrary to today's norm, I respect my father very much and am willing to obey and honour him wherever possible. My family and I are all very close. My oldest two brothers are married and my sister is too. We are very close and the bond between us is strong. I am willing and happy to work as part of a team and to help anyone who is in need. With food, clothing, and shelter I am a contented man. All above this is a blessing from God!
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There is no long-lasting happiness found in pleasing ones self but rather it is found in helping others. This applies for men and women. We cannot deny that women were created by God originally as a helper to their husbands and by following the scriptual pattern this should bring them more happiness than all the wealth in the world. They have equal opportunity to eternal life but they have a totally different role to that of the man. A married woman's role is to be supportive to her husband, a help meet, loving companion, nurturer of the children, dutiful in keeping the house, baking bread, planting flowers around the home,... and being a smiling face to wake up to.. :-) . She is what makes the house a home. This is the technical side of it but in reality I would treat my wife as a most delicate flower and closest friend to my heart and would smother her with love, tender kindness, and warm words that would make her heart leap for joy :-) I have a [b]lot[/b] of love in my heart and seek to find the right young lady to share it with. I greatly respect Godly ladies who are modest and gentle hearted. Those ladies are above rubies. (But I have little time for feministic minded women who act in an arrogant and almost manly manner...augh!). A Godly lady is priceless!!!
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There is so much joy to be found when a man and women submit in the right order. A wife should respect her husband and submit herself under his authority as a man to Christ. If a man is a Godly man then what is so scary about supporting him as he tries his best to lead his family in the ways of God. I know it must be very hard for Godly wives who want to do what is right but have unbelieving husbands. If a man is not submmiting to Chirst then it would be very hard to understand a wife's part in submission. I say submission...yet really it should be more a simple matter of wanting to please. I enjoy discussion and so-forth. I don't really like contention though, and I think arguments are so destructive to trust and closeness. If possible I hope to avoive them altogether in my marriage (agruments that is not discussions) :-) The idea of a wife going out every week to work seeking a career of her own does not apeal to me nor do I think it is fair to ask this of any woman. Women should not feel they have to perform up to the same standard as a man, it's a cruel expectation placed on women by feminst ideology and peer pressure. I want my wife to experience true womanhood and feel fulfilled as a real lady. This womanly fulfilment has been stolen off the modern 'office slave' woman and many are now realising what they have missed out on..but sadly for many it's too late. :-(
In regard to purity, I think that is important. I for one, do not want to marry a 'second hand woman' (willingly second hand). Todays world says that it doesn't matter if a girl loses her purity before marriage but I think it does matter. ...And if more people said this perhaps girls would be more careful how they behaved (men too). I do not agree with christians divorcing. Divorce really is a plague that [i]is[/i] contagious and has swept across the entire western world leaving behind a trail of destruction. Oh so many cold hearts and broken homes. Marriage IS for life! When a couple marry they must realise this. I believe (in accordance with the Bible) that a man must provide for his wife and family in every way possible. Not only physically but also spiritually. My wife should not expect great wealth or luxuries but she can expect to be protected and provided for very well. There will be no mansion on the hill with crystal chandeliers but there will be a lot of love and romance within the marriage. A stable marriage spiced with a good deal of humour and romance is a special thing indeed (As I have witnessed with my parents marriage of 31 years so far)
A man should be prepared to lay down his life for his family -Christ being the perfect example of selfless love toward the churches (but bear in mind also that a man is of most help to them when he is alive. Protecting his family should also include protecting them from the spiritual dangers and peer pressures that are so prevalent today.
Growing up in a big family I find it very easy to relate to all age groups. I love children and look forward to the day when God blesses me with them/if he does and I pray He does! Children are a blessing from God. Think of the family picnics, the laughter, and happy smiles :-)
I would rather leave it up to God to plan our family. I would count each of them as a blessing. Children can either be a burden or a blessing depending on how they are raised. "Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it".
In this day and age homeschooling is the only safe way. Why raise your children till they are 6 years old or whatever then have them exposed to unruly children and ungodly attitudes and teachings that will undermine all the good things they have been taught. I was homeschooled and want to homeschool my children too.
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As for dress standards, I tend to think ladies should be generally dressed in long dresses or skirts. Clothes that are modest, not revealing (nor should they be too plain and 'official' but rather ladylike and dainty). Neat and petite :-) A lady likes to dress neatly just as much as a man likes to see a lady care about herself enough to dress in a pretty yet modest manner. Not becoming too vain though for all is lost if one become filled with pride and vanity. I know this is easier said than done but if vanity get's too far out of control then it generaly leads to disscontentment.
With regard to TV, movies, literature etc: I think we have to be careful and selective. a lot of what is on the shelves today are the very things that are breaking down our society. I would rather not waste time watching TV. That is apart from in the case of an important world event that required me to view it but that would be extremely rare (I hope) and I would not like to subject my family to it. I think that the television has been responsible for the breakdown of morals in society more than any other single thing on earth. And it has reached almost every country of the world. If it is bad for the children then it is also bad for the adults. We can't kid ourselves (no pun intended). Time with the family is far more important.
I like Christian music especially 'scripture in song', Hymns that show appreciation of God's creation as well as a meriod of other songs including some of the folk songs from old England and Ireland. I do enjoy singing also but not standing up in front a crowd! How wonderful it would be if my future wife would have a love for singing . :-) thinking aloud here, sorry :-)
I am a keen gardener, I enjoy working with animals, and I also enjoy carpentry work and building. My enthusiasm for gardening started at a young age. Here on the farm/community where I live we grow a market garden that not only supplies a lot of our needs but also provides us with enough to sell. I am also a keen fisherman and I enjoy sailing. I like bushwalking, boatbuilding, orchard work, table tennis, discussions around the campfire, carving, picnics, artwork, etc etc. I love life and enjoy doing many many thing :-)
I like the idea of being self-sufficient (relying on God not the 'system') and doing some things the old-fashioned way.
I am living with my family on a 200 acre farms that is situated overlooking the sea and within easy walking distance of the beach.
I'm not one to place huge emphesis on material possessions, rather I believe in 'living and then giving'. In other words, not storing up elaborite personal riches while other people are starving in this world.
I know that I have been quite specific in stating the things I am looking for in a potential wife, but am also realistic that I fall short in many things and I don't expect my wife to be perfect. What matters most is the heart. I look for a girl with a gentle honest heart, who is not pretentious but rather has a genuine desrire to do what is right. Just a happy, mouldable heart is what I hope to find in the lady I fall in love with.
Love covers a multitude of shortcomings. :-)
I have recieved criticism for making a stand on various issues but I am not too concerned by this for it is God who I am trying to please, as I said I just want to be a humble servant of God, a humble leader of my family, a loving husband to my future wife, a dedicated father, and true friend.
I hope God blesses me and my wife with many children. In looking for a wife I also consider if she'll make a good mother for my children, nurture them with gentle dedication. Yet staying ever close to my heart through tight times and easy, thick or thin. Whether the weather be hot, or whether the weather be cold, whatever the weather, we'll weather the weather, whether we are young or old :-). I would like to have a very close and trusting relationship where we can share the intimate thoughts of our hearts. The lady I marry can rest assured she will be loved beyond her wildest dreams and cared for better than most ladies in our time. I will not compromise the order of God but to see her content would bring much joy to my heart. I mumble and bumble along, but beneath it all I'm the kind of man who'll always be true, and never let you down.
I guess I am somewhat old-fashioned and perhaps you may say I was born in the wrong era, but maybe we could learn a lot from the past and apply the virtuous thing in our lives today. What is wrong with chivalry, men who are not ashamed to be men and women who are real ladies??? In society today one can hardly tell the difference between men and women! The beautiful difference has vanished and in it's place has grown the muddy unisex culture and low morals. I have made a stand against aspects of the modern lose society. I have made a stand for following God's ways, for high morals, chivalry, purity, courtship, and indeed all that is upright and acceptable in the sight of God as best I know how. I know I have a long way to go, we all have hope with God's mercy. My goal in life is not great riches or fame, nor do I value success by the number of letters after my name. Finding a wife who shares my passion for following God and who has not been polluted by the surrounding harshness is no easy task. Especially a young lady who is tender-hearted and meek. Yet my standards are based on the bible and I believe that it is worth waiting for the right girl. I feel sure that there is somewhere out there a fine young lady who is also wondering if there are indeed any old-fashioned gentlemen left in the world. Well, God willing, soon we shall meet :-) Hold fast to what you know to be true and I will do the same.
And to anyone else who is also making a stand for righteousness I encourage you to be steadfast in your commitment:
Young ladies while you are in waiting for your future husband to arrive on his white horse, keep yourselves focused on being dutiful daughters, improving your homemaking skills, and remain pure for your future husband.
Young men true, longlasting, happiness doesn't come from trying to please our selves. Be responsible and Godly pillars to uphold the good values in society. Be gentlemen and, regardless of the feministic minded women who will mock you for doing so, be prepared to open doors for ladies and treat them with respect. Let's turn the tide, and show that gentlemen are not extinct from this age.Remember it only takes a minority to make a huge difference in society. So cheer up, for there are others walking the same walk. I hope this is of some encouragement. Feel free to post your comments or write to me directly. I look forward to hearing from you soon.
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